{"id":769,"date":"2018-09-09T13:03:06","date_gmt":"2018-09-09T13:03:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/mentalgymbyvicky.com\/?p=769"},"modified":"2018-09-09T13:03:06","modified_gmt":"2018-09-09T13:03:06","slug":"perfectionism-in-sport","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mentalgymbyvicky.com\/en\/perfectionism-in-sport\/","title":{"rendered":"Perfectionism in Sport"},"content":{"rendered":"

Do you often think that you could do something better? Very rarely you are proud of yourself? You don\u2019t let yourself make mistakes? Does it sound familiar for you? Be careful not to get stuck in the perfectionism trap. Self-perfectionism is not a quest for the best. It is the pursuit of the worst in ourselves, the part that tells us that nothing we do will even be good enough \u2013 that we should try harder.<\/b><\/p>\n

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Photo by\u00a0Sebastian Skokowski<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Some people consider perfectionism to be an advantage. Others have totally different opinions; they admit that perfectionism is really bad and can destroy their daily life. We can find different statements about perfectionism and all depends on whether we can manage this feature. It may seem that perfectionism could make our life harder. Perfectionists have problems with finishing tasks, because there always is something that they can do better in the task. They have a problem with ending something which they can improve<\/strong>. When something doesn\u2019t go according to their expectations, they always look for the guilt in themselves. They very often compare themselves with other people. The most popular thoughts in their heads are \u2018I should\u2019 or \u2018I must\u2019. They always need to do something; perfectionists have a problem when someone is critical of them. If more of those symptoms occur in your life maybe this article will be helpful for you.<\/p>\n

When you are aware that you are a perfectionist you can use it as an advantage. For instance, perfectionism could be helpful in sport. \u201cPractice makes perfect<\/em>\u201d do you agree with that? It could be your strength or it also has its downside. On the one side perfectionism is good when you practice. Athletes could be more motivated, work harder than others and they try to be the best<\/strong>. However, perfectionism is not good during the competition. On the other side, athletes with a high level of perfectionism during the competition can struggle with fragile confidence, fear of failure, frustration or lack of trust in their ability<\/strong>. Furthermore this feature could make you more worried about technique skills; you can also overanalyze your performance. The effects of this can be that you want to avoid making mistakes during the performance, which is not good for you. What could happen in the future? For perfectionists mistakes are like \u2018a snowball effect<\/em>\u2019. When they see mistakes they lose confidence. It is not good for them, because confidence is one of the most important factors in sport performance.<\/p>\n

Ok, we see how it looks in sport, but what happens when the perfectionism level is too high in daily life? Perfectionists are always busy. Actually they are almost often outside. They don\u2019t like to stay at home, when they do they are always working on something. They also have a problem with work addiction, all the time they want to complete tasks. All day and all night they work hard, but very often they complain about how busy they are. Even during their holiday they need support, because the anxiety doesn’t take a day off. Perfectionism is the effect of a high level of anxiety and the need for control. When you can manage your anxiety, you will be more calm, then you can use perfectionism as advantage. Find a balance between work and leisure time; switch \u2018I must\u2019 into \u2018I can\u2019<\/strong>. Then life will be easier and you can find more pleasure in life. It is not necessary to be perfect to be unique and special. We are not machines. We have emotions, feelings and needs. It is very important to take care of yourself and then for sure you can achieve more in your private life, in sport or in your career.<\/p>\n

How can you overcome perfectionism?<\/b><\/p>\n

Remember that life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. With this in mind try to avoid filling your mind with too many negative thoughts. We can focus only on one emotional thought, so you can choose if it will be a positive or negative thought. If you recognize a negative thought tell yourself \u2018Stop!\u2019 and then change it. Breath and stay calm. What is the best advice? Don’t focus on the result, because it causes pressure. Try to think what you can do in the present moment. Then You will notice that the results will come.<\/p>\n

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Cz\u0119sto zdarza ci si\u0119 czu\u0107, \u017ce m\u00f3g\u0142by\u015b zrobi\u0107 co\u015b lepiej? Bardzo rzadko jeste\u015b z siebie zadowolony? Nie pozwalasz sobie na pope\u0142nianie b\u0142\u0119d\u00f3w? Brzmi to znajomo? Uwa\u017caj, aby nie utkn\u0105\u0107 w pu\u0142apce perfekcjonizmu. Perfekcjonizm to nie poszukiwanie tego co najlepsze. To pogo\u0144 za tym co w nas najgorsze. Pewna cz\u0119\u015b\u0107 nas samych, kt\u00f3ra pokazuje nam, \u017ce to co robimy nie jest nawet wystarczaj\u0105co dobre, \u017ce powinni\u015bmy si\u0119 bardziej postara\u0107.<\/b><\/p>\n

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Zdj\u0119cie:\u00a0Sebastian Skokowski<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Cz\u0119\u015b\u0107 os\u00f3b postrzega perfekcjonizm jako zalet\u0119, druga cz\u0119\u015b\u0107 ma zupe\u0142nie inne zdanie. Uwa\u017caj\u0105 perfekcjonizm za co\u015b totalnie z\u0142ego co ma destrukcyjny wp\u0142yw na ich codzienne \u017cycie. Opinie s\u0105 podzielone, a wszystko zale\u017cy od tego jak postrzegamy sw\u00f3j perfekcjonizm, a przede wszystkim to czy potrafimy nim konstruktywnie zarz\u0105dza\u0107. Mo\u017ce si\u0119 wydawa\u0107, \u017ce sprawia on, \u017ce nasze \u017cycie staje si\u0119 trudniejsze. Perfekcjoni\u015bci maj\u0105 problem z ko\u0144czeniem zada\u0144, poniewa\u017c uwa\u017caj\u0105, \u017ce zawsze jest co co mog\u0105 zrobi\u0107 lepiej<\/strong>. Tkwi\u0105 w pu\u0142apce przekonania, \u017ce wci\u0105\u017c mog\u0105 co\u015b poprawi\u0107; a kiedy co\u015b nie idzie po ich my\u015bli to zawsze winy poszukuj\u0105 w sobie. Bardzo cz\u0119sto por\u00f3wnuj\u0105 si\u0119 z innymi lud\u017ami. Najbardziej popularne my\u015bli, kt\u00f3re kr\u0105\u017c\u0105 po g\u0142owie perfekcjonisty to \u201epowinienem\u201d i \u201emusz\u0119\u201d. Towarzyszy im nieustanne pragnienie robienia czego\u015b, nieustannie s\u0105 w ruchu. Maj\u0105 te\u017c problem z przyjmowaniem krytyki. Je\u015bli zauwa\u017cysz, ze wi\u0119kszo\u015b\u0107 symptom\u00f3w dotyczy tak\u017ce ciebie mo\u017ce ten artyku\u0142 jest w\u0142a\u015bnie dla ciebie.<\/p>\n

Je\u017celi staniesz si\u0119 \u015bwiadomy swego perfekcjonizmu mo\u017cesz przekszta\u0142ci\u0107 go jako swoj\u0105 mocn\u0105 stron\u0119. Przyk\u0142adowo perfekcjonizm jest wykorzystywany tak\u017ce w sporcie. \u201ePraktyka czyni mistrza<\/em>\u201d zgadzasz si\u0119 z tym? To mo\u017ce sta\u0107 si\u0119 twoj\u0105 si\u0142\u0105 albo \u015bci\u0105gn\u0105\u0107 ci\u0119 w d\u00f3\u0142. Z jednej strony perfekcjonizm jest zalet\u0105 podczas trening\u00f3w. Sportowcy s\u0105 bardziej zmotywowani, trenuj\u0105 ci\u0119\u017cej i staraj\u0105 si\u0119 by\u0107 najlepsi w tym co robi\u0105<\/strong>. Jedak ju\u017c podczas zawod\u00f3w perfekcjonizm mo\u017ce dzia\u0142a\u0107 na nasz\u0105 niekorzy\u015b\u0107. Z drugiej strony sportowcy z wysokim poziomem perfekcjonizmu podczas zawod\u00f3w mog\u0105 zmaga\u0107 si\u0119 z niezbyt trwa\u0142\u0105 pewno\u015bci\u0105 siebie, l\u0119kiem przed pora\u017ck\u0105, frustracj\u0105 czy te\u017c brakiem wiary we w\u0142asne mo\u017cliwo\u015bci<\/strong>. Ponadto perfekcjonizm sprawia, \u017ce nie jeste\u015bmy pewni naszych umiej\u0119tno\u015bci technicznych i zbytnio skupiamy si\u0119 analizuj\u0105c start podczas zawod\u00f3w. Efektem tego jest to, \u017ce zawodnik skupia si\u0119 na tym, aby nie pope\u0142nia\u0107 b\u0142\u0119d\u00f3w podczas zawod\u00f3w co nie jest dla niego dobre w danej chwili. Co mo\u017ce si\u0119 wydarzy\u0107 w przysz\u0142o\u015bci? Dla perfekcjonist\u00f3w b\u0142\u0119dy s\u0105 niczym \u201ekula \u015bniegowa<\/em>\u201d. Kiedy zauwa\u017caj\u0105 b\u0142\u0119dy trac\u0105 tym samym poczucie pewno\u015bci siebie. To nie jest dobre, poniewa\u017c pewno\u015b\u0107 siebie jest jedn\u0105 z kluczowych cech, kt\u00f3r\u0105 powinien posiada\u0107 zawodnik podczas startu.<\/p>\n

Ok skoro ju\u017c wiemy jak perfekcjonizm wp\u0142ywa na aktywno\u015b\u0107 sportow\u0105 to teraz przyjrzymy si\u0119 co si\u0119 dzieje, kiedy wysoki poziom perfekcjonizmu towarzyszy nam w \u017cyciu codziennym. Perfekcjoni\u015bci s\u0105 zawsze zabiegani. W\u0142a\u015bciwie to s\u0105 wiecznie poza domem. Nie lubi\u0105 siedzie\u0107 w jednym miejscu, kiedy jest tyle rzeczy dooko\u0142a, kt\u00f3re maj\u0105 do zrobienia. Cz\u0119sto maj\u0105 tak\u017ce problem z uzale\u017cnieniem od pracy, maj\u0105 wysok\u0105 potrzeb\u0119 doprowadzania zada\u0144 do ko\u0144ca. Pracuj\u0105 dniami i nocami, a przy tym cz\u0119sto narzekaj\u0105, \u017ce nie maj\u0105 na nic czasu. Nawet podczas wakacji potrzebuj\u0105 wsparcia, poniewa\u017c l\u0119k nigdy nie bierze urlopu. Perfekcjonizm jest efektem wysokiego l\u0119ku i du\u017cej potrzeby kontroli. Kiedy nauczysz si\u0119 kontrolowa\u0107 sw\u00f3j l\u0119k staniesz si\u0119 bardziej spokojny, a wtedy b\u0119dziesz wstanie przeku\u0107 perfekcjonizm w swoj\u0105 mocn\u0105 stron\u0119. Znajd\u017a r\u00f3wnowag\u0119 pomi\u0119dzy prac\u0105, a czasem wolnym; zamie\u0144 \u201emusz\u0119\u201d na \u201emog\u0119\u201d<\/strong>. Wtedy \u017cycie stanie si\u0119 \u0142atwiejsze, a ty odnajdziesz wi\u0119cej przyjemno\u015bci z \u017cycia. Nie trzeba by\u0107 perfekcyjnym, aby by\u0107 kim\u015b warto\u015bciowym i wyj\u0105tkowym. Nie jeste\u015bmy maszynami. Mamy emocje, uczucia i potrzeby. To bardzo wa\u017cne, aby o siebie zadba\u0107, a wtedy sukcesy w \u017cyciu prywatnym, sporcie czy karierze przyjd\u0105 o wiele \u0142atwiej.<\/p>\n

Jak mo\u017cemy si\u0119 zmierzy\u0107 z perfekcjonizmem?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pami\u0119taj, \u017ce \u017cycie to 10% tego co nam si\u0119 przytrafia i 90% tego jak na to zareagujemy. Maj\u0105c to w pami\u0119ci staraj si\u0119 nie wype\u0142nia\u0107 swojego umys\u0142u negatywnymi my\u015blami. Cz\u0142owiek jest w stanie skupi\u0107 si\u0119 tylko na jednej my\u015bli w danym momencie, sam wybierasz czy b\u0119dzie to pozytywna czy negatywna my\u015bl. Je\u015bli rozpoznasz negatywn\u0105 my\u015bl od razu powiedz sobie \u201eStop\u201d i zmie\u0144 j\u0105. Oddychaj i b\u0105d\u017a spokojny. Jaka jest najlepsza rada? Nie skupiaj si\u0119 na rezultatach, poniewa\u017c wtedy pojawia si\u0119 wysoka presja. Postaraj si\u0119 skupi\u0107 na tym co mo\u017cesz zrobi\u0107 tu i teraz, a efekty przyjd\u0105 same.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Do you often think that you could do something better? Very rarely you are proud of yourself? You don\u2019t let<\/p>\n

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